In a perfect world, nobody would think that their significant other is being unfaithful. But in the real world, we know that this isn't always the case. Folks lose interest in their partners, get bored, or seek attention from someone else to boost their confidence. But for the party that is being cheated on it can be devastating. So what exactly can you do if you think that your other half is playing away from home? Read on to find out.
The first thing to do, before you go steaming in with accusation is to stop! Just because we suspect something doesn't mean that it is true. Perhaps we are someone that is particularly sensitive to worry about this issue?
It is always best to take some time to review why we are feeling like this before we take any action. Is is because of something that they have done? Or is is because of how we are feeling about ourselves at the moment?
Remember having a huge row over something that isn't true can be as damaging as if it was. This is because the accused party will feel that all of your trust in them has been eroded, even though they have done nothing wrong. In the worst case scenario, they may even decide to cheat even if they haven't before because they are being accused of it anyway!
The next step is to consider the likelihood of whether there is actually cheating occurring? Are there any reasons they might be cheating? Have there been any significant changes in their behavior towards you over the last month or so?
They could be cold and distant, or they could be uncharacteristically attentive, perhaps due to guilt? Have things changed in your intimate relationship, or have they been acting strangely in any way?
Once you have stopped and considered, you will be in a much better position to assess whether you think that there is a real problem. Then you can decide if it is worth investigating or not.
If you decide that it is probably nothing, try to let it go completely. Don’t keep judging your partner’s behavior as if there is something untoward going on. All that will do it make things more stressful and difficult for you both.
However, if you do decide that there is something happening that needs further attention, move to the next step below.
Now you need to find some evidence that will back up your suspicion of cheating. How you do this is up to you. But it is best to have something solid that cannot be argued with or explained away so you will know for sure what is happening.
For example, if you are collecting the evidence yourself you may find receipts for restaurants that you haven't been to. Or, you could use something like this facebook messenger spy, as many people use online forms of contact to conduct their affairs.
You could even, hire a private investigator who would be able to follow your significant other, and take a picture of them with the person that they are cheating with. Which would provide undeniable proof.