We all get stuck in a rut from time to time. It appears that some get stuck in a rut more than others. You may feel stuck in a rut for a week or two, you may feel stuck in a rut for half a year to a year. Only you can get out of the rut you’re in, so take some of the following steps to help you to move forward:
Write Down The Things You Love To Do
Start off by writing down the things you love to do, the things that make you feel alive. You can also write down the things you always think about but never actually try out. Once you have a list of things, try to incorporate them more in your life. Maybe it’s making a regular coffee date with a friend, and trying out a new craft every now and again. By making sure you incorporate lots of different things that you enjoy in your life, you’ll feel so much better. Your life will feel more full of fun and excitement than ever before!
Notice The Things That Give You More Energy
People change. This means that it’s OK to like doing something, and then lose your passion for it. There are ways you can get the passion back, but it could be time to try something else for a while. Make note of the things that make you energetic. If you’ve always considered yourself to be an avid tennis player, but the thought of playing the game makes you feel sad, then don’t force yourself to do it. You may have grown out of it, or you may simply need a break. Try something that makes you feel alive and go with the flow to see where it takes you. Make sure you don’t apply too much pressure to yourself here. If you develop a new found love for writing, but tell yourself your book must be a bestseller, you probably won’t finish it. Just do things because you enjoy them, and not because you think the end result will be satisfactory. The first time anybody does anything is usually rubbish!
Ask For Help
It’s OK to ask for help if you need it. Maybe you’re feeling depressed; you could book an appointment with your doctor. Maybe all you need to do is tell a friend that you’re struggling. You could even check out a site like Readings with Matt to see if there’s an alternative option out there for you. Sometimes, intuitive people are the best people to speak to in times of crisis!
Read A Lot
There are so many books out there that could help you to take a leap of faith and do something you really want to do. If you’re indecisive about where you want to go, you’re still making a decision not to go anywhere or do anything. This needs to change if you’re going to notice big improvements in your life. Start reading books from people who have been there and done that and you might just pick up some useful advice.
Put The Extra Work In
When you know what you need to do, it’s important to realize that these things take work. You may need to fit some work in before bed or before work; whenever you can manage it. You’ll need to spend your free time researching and doing things to help take you closer to your goal, even if these things are only seemingly tiny. It’s a case of taking small steps until you’re exactly where you want to be.
Write Down All The Ways You Can Improve
You may have a good idea of some of the ways you can improve. Maybe you’d like to be somebody who works out 3 times a week minimum. Maybe you want to be a person who meditates, who can control their spending. Somebody who has their life together. Write down what the version of you who you really want to be is like. Now, start taking small steps towards that person. The smallest step can make the biggest difference! It’s so much easier when you break things like this up into smaller chunks too. Looking at everything you want to do can be overwhelming. Breaking it up will make it seem like a piece of cake.
Figure Out What’s Holding You Back
There could be a number of things to blame for you not being where you’d like right now. Are you stuck in a soul destroying job? Are you drinking a lot? Are you spending time with negative people? All of these things can be holding you back from a bigger and better reality. However, it all boils down to one thing; you. You are the only thing that’s really holding you back, so stop making excuses and make a change!
Don’t Doubt Your Own Dreams
There may be a little voice in your head that tells you to doubt yourself. The voice telling you you’re not good enough to write that book. The voice that says you’re being silly, or reaching too high. You need to find a way to quieten that voice! You should never doubt your own dreams. Others have done it; why not you? You can do anything you set your mind to. It’s a case of figuring out your deeply held beliefs, especially those that make you feel you’re not worthy or good enough. Then you can begin to get rid of them and start living your life!
Stop Living In The Past
Maybe you’re living in the past. Perhaps you had a job you loved but you were let go. Maybe a valued relationship ended. You need to stop living in the past if you want to move forward. Thinking about the past too much and wondering ‘what if?’ will only make you go crazy.
Decide To Start Living And Appreciating The Moment
Start living. Say yes to going places with your friends. Decide to be happy. Decide how you want to feel each day, and do your best. Appreciate each moment. It isn't the events we remember, but the moments!