Do you find it hard to sleep? Is your mind always racing? Do you start the day feeling anxious or fraught, rather than refreshed? If so, you may be suffering from stress. Stress plays a part in most of our lives, but if you let it get on top of you, it can take over. Here are some of the most common stressors, and some simple tips to help you beat stress.
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What’s dragging you down?
Everyone is different, and what stresses one person out may have no impact on another. Although we’re all unique, there are certain factors and life events that seem to affect us more commonly than others. Here are some examples.
Do you lie awake at night wondering how you’re going to pay the bills or afford the kids’ school trips? Have you got debts or are you worried that your earnings may drop? They say money can’t buy happiness, but a lack of money can certainly contribute to unhappiness. If you have debts or you’re constantly struggling to make ends meet, this can take its toll on your physical and mental health. If you can’t sleep, you’ll soon notice the effects of sleepless nights. You’ll be tired during the day, you may feel irritable and emotional, and your energy levels may be low. If you do have money worries, it’s always best to try and address them as swiftly as possible. If you leave them to fester, you may end up in an even worse situation. Try and maximize your earnings, and set a budget for each month. Identify areas where you could save, and try and clear debts that are costing you in interest off as quickly as possible. It’s worth arranging to see a financial adviser so that they can give you some tips to improve our financial situation.
How often do you get into bed and immediately start thinking about the meeting that’s coming up tomorrow or the heap of work you’ve got to get through before 5 o’clock on Friday? Work stresses most of us out. Even if we love our jobs, there are bound to be days when things get on top of us, and we crave some time out. It’s perfectly normal to have bad days at work and to feel like sometimes, you’re chasing your tail with deadlines and getting through your workload. However, it’s not normal to feel stressed on a continual basis and to dread going to work.
If your job is getting you down, it may be time to consider other options. You could move company if you don’t get on particularly well with your colleagues or you think your boss treats you unfairly, or you could take the plunge and change career. Think about what you’d really like to do if you could have any job. Are you an aspiring writer or do you love nothing more than cooking in your spare time? Do you want to help others and explore roles like support workers or nurses, or are you keen to set up your own business? If you’ve been unhappy at work for a long time or you harbor ambitions to do something different, don’t try and stick it out and hope it gets better. Make the change now. You’ll regret it if you don’t.
The relationships we have with others can make us feel like we’re on top of the world, but they can also drag us down. If things aren’t going well with your partner, or there is tension between family members, it can make you unhappy, and uneasy. Sometimes, it’s good to argue and get your thoughts and feelings out, but it’s unhealthy to be fighting all the time. You have to take the rough with the smooth, but the highs should always outweigh the lows. If you’re having trouble in your relationship, try and identify what’s gone wrong, and work on finding solutions if you both want to move forward. In some cases, relationships are worth battling for, but in others, it’s better for both parties to call it a day and try and move on. Not everyone you meet will be a perfect match, but that doesn’t mean you won’t ever find ‘the one.’ Sometimes, we click with others, and sometimes and we don’t. If you’re having difficulties with family members, try and talk about the situation, and be open and honest with each other. For most of us, family is our priority, and there’s almost always a solution to a problem. It may take time, but hopefully, you’ll get there if you listen to each other and you’re prepared to compromise.
Time is an increasingly valuable commodity for many of us. When you’re young, hours seem to last for days. When you get older, days fly by in a flash, and before you know it, years have passed. Time, or more appropriately, a lack of time, can stress us out because we feel like we’ve got too much to do and not enough hours in the day. If you’ve got work all day, and then you’ve got children or an elderly relative to look after, as well as trying to tidy the house, get to the gym and spend time with friends, there’s a lot to pack into a short space of time. Life can get very busy, and it can pass us by without us really thinking about it.
How we spend our time can also be a trigger for anxiety and stress. As you get older, you may feel like you’re caught up in a tidal wave and you’re paddling without really getting anywhere. Years can go by, and you can still be in the same position. With technology and social media, it can be easy to get bogged down in what everyone else is up to, and you may feel like you haven’t achieved much, even if you have. Social media can be a wonderful thing, but it can also impact your confidence, and make you compare yourself to others, which is not always healthy. Try not to worry about what your Facebook friends are doing, and focus on yourself. If you’re not married, with your own house, a dog, and a baby on the way by 30, don’t panic. Not everyone follows the same path, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
If you find that you’re always juggling, and you never have enough time, try and plan ahead, and manage your time more effectively. Don’t say yes to everyone who demands your time. Sometimes, you have to admit that you’re not a superhero, and you can’t possibly be in two places at the same time. Organize your diary, get everything ready for the day ahead the evening before, and ask for help if you need it. If you find yourself worrying about what you’re doing with your life or comparing yourself to others, take a break, and put your phone down. Social media is very good at making people’s lives look much more exciting and glamorous, and it’s worth remembering that this isn’t always a true reflection. As long as you’re happy, that’s all that matters.
If you’re stressed, this can take its toll on your health and your mental wellbeing. We all suffer from stress, but if you can’t manage it, ask for help. Try and identify what’s getting you down or making you feel anxious or apprehensive, and find solutions. Perhaps you need to take a couple of days off, think about changing your job or seek advice from somebody in the know. Maybe you need to have that talk with your partner or your sister or you need to try and manage your time more effectively. Whatever the problem, there will be a way of sorting it out and moving forward.