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Thursday, March 23, 2017

What To Do When Disaster Strikes

There are a lot of problems in life that could befall us when we’re least expecting it. From job losses to unexpected bereavements to injuries to car accidents, no matter how prepared we think we are, we’re never prepared enough. Luckily there are a few things you can do in any difficult situation to make it just a little easier on yourself and your loved ones.

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Keep Communicating
Everyone reacts to stress in different ways. Some people clam up and find it very difficult to talk to others, while some people get angry and frustrated and start to lash out. The one thing that almost everyone has in common is that not many people tend to react to difficult circumstances in ways that are always one hundred percent healthy and productive. If something rough is going on in your life, make sure that you take plenty of deep breaths before losing your temper. People simply can’t understand what you’re going through unless they’ve lived through similar situations and it’s important for you to remember that. If people offer to help you, you should absolutely take them up on it - ask them to do your laundry, to make you dinner, to babysit your kids. Real friends and your best and closest family members will leap at the chance to do something to help.

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Talk To The Professionals
No matter what’s happened, you probably aren’t an expert on it so it’s important to talk to people who are. If you have a loved one who’s in the hospital make sure that you keep talking to their doctors about what exactly is going on so you’re up to date with what’s happening. If you’ve been in a car accident, make sure that you talk to a car accident lawyer to see if there’s any compensation that you might be entitled to, particularly if you’re unable to work for some time because of your injuries. Finally, remember that there’s no shame in seeking mental health help if you’re going through a difficult time. Anyone who can help you deal with your emotions well will be a huge help in your life - a counsellor might just be exactly what you and your loved ones need.

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Keep Track Of Your Finances
Finally, it’s important to keep track of your bank account - money goes down even when the rest of your life is full of chaos and difficulty and if you can’t work for a period of time then you might need to cut back in some areas. Keep talking to your accountant or bank manager about what exactly is going on so that they can help you manage it. If you’re having problems managing then why not set up a JustGiving account? Crowd funding could help you until you’re back on your feet. Finally, make sure that you start to cut back on non essentials like takeaway coffee and so on - focus on what’s really important like making sure that your rent and bills get paid.

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Getting Your Finances Back On Track After An Injury

If you have ever been in the situation where you have been so badly injured at work that you have to take some time off, you will know how very stressful that can really be. No matter what kind of work you do, or who you are, this is the kind of thing that you never want to happen. Not only is it a hassle in terms of having to take time off and probably losing finances, it is also distressing not being able to do anything about it at all. The most important thing in these situations is your health, of course - but that doesn’t mean that your bank account is not also important, because it is. In this article, we are going to discuss ways that you can get your finances back on track after an injury which has kept you out of work.


If you don’t already budget in your everyday life, now is probably a good time to start. The fact of the matter is that you are not quite sure what your finances are going to be like in the near future, and as such you should endeavour to keep your spending to a minimum. You also need to know exactly how much you actually have to spend, and what your overall financial picture looks like. Otherwise you might find yourself in deep trouble. This is where budgeting comes into it. With a proper budget, you are much more likely to keep on top of your finances in such a way that you can see yourself through to the next stage of your life. But it all starts with drawing up a proper, tight budget which you can actually follow.


If you were injured by someone else, or it wasn’t your fault, then you might want to see if you are entitled to anything in the way of compensation. You might be struggling with money in the weeks or months to come, and anything you can do to help that is going to be a good idea. If you do think you might be entitled to some compensation, then you should consult some good injury lawyers to find out what they think. They will be able to assist you and help you make the most of the situation so that you can come out the other end as well as possible, in as good a position as possible.

Earn From Home

If you are homebound and you really think you might be struggling with money, then you might want to think about trying to earn some money from home. These days, this is easier than ever, and you might even find that you quite enjoy some of it. There are plenty of ways of earning from home, and above all you should look around and compare the options before you dive into anything. Just tread carefully and protect yourself against scams and gambling schemes and so on. Only go for something if it seems like a genuine money making attempt which looks like it might work well.

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Keeping Your Wedding Guests Happy

When you are planning for your wedding, you are likely to be simultaneously very stressed out and very excited, and this yo yo of emotions can often mean that the best decisions are not always made. It helps in this case to focus on the priorities, and to do that you of course need to know what the priorities are. Most people would agree that the guests themselves are among the most important part of the wedding, and keeping them happy is likely to be one of your major concerns along the way. As long as you are focusing on them, you should find that you tend to make the right decisions overall. Let’s take a look at a few of the things you should focus on most keenly if you want to keep your guests happy.


Most of the magic happens actually long before the day itself, and the invitations are a great example of somewhere where it really pays to pay a lot of attention. As long as you are working hard on the invites, you can be sure that the overall effect will be marvellous enough to really wow your guests. You should make a special effort to design the invitations so that they are personal to each guest, and give a taster of what is to come on the big day.

Thank You Cards

Just as important as before the event is after it: if you forget to send out thank you cards, it is likely that there are many people who would not forgive you in a hurry. The quality of these thank you cards is also hugely important, as if you really go out of your way on these it will show how grateful you are, and your guests are bound to really appreciate that. The best way here is to use personalised wedding thank you cards, so that each and every one of your guests feels significantly more cared for than they would otherwise.


Just as vital as these, of course, are the favors, and you will probably want to make sure that you spend a decent amount of time working on those too. Ideally, you want favors which are as original and unique as possible, and as with the previous two items, you should try your best to personalise these as well. If you do that, people will be much more likely to leave your big day feeling delighted to have been a part of it, and that is exactly what you are going for. Try to go for favors which are likely to be appreciated by all. This will ensure that you don’t upset or annoy anyone by giving them a gift they don’t appreciate.

Food & Drink

It goes without saying that the food is a hugely important part of the day, so make sure that you are doing everything you can to keep it as professional as possible. Give everyone an option, even if it is merely between two or three dishes, and most of all make sure you remember any special dietary requirements your guests might have.

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Prepare Your Home For an Emergency With These Easy Tips

We live in pretty perilous times. Every time we turn on the news there is something new and sad or news about parts of the world where disaster has struck. We never know when that place we hear about might be a little closer to home. So it is more important than ever to be prepared for an emergency. Even smaller emergencies like the power going out can cause a bit of a problem for us if we don’t know where certain things in our home are. If you think that you need to be more prepared, then you’re not alone! We can all do this together and make our homes a safer place to be, should disaster strike. Preparedness isn’t just for our neighbors or people that we see on the news. It is for everyone. Here are some of the best ways to prepare your home for an emergency.


Pack a Grab Bag

If you have something in your home like a fire or a flood, then it might mean that you have to leave your home for a couple of days, or perhaps even longer. So having a bag that you can just grab at a moment’s notice is a must. It is a good idea to keep the bag in a pretty safe place in the home. Having it at height could be a good idea in case of a flood. It could even be worth keeping it in a shed or garage, that is slightly separate from the main building. But from there you can just grab it and go. What are the best things to have in a bag like that, though? A couple of days worth of food and water for your family is a must. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, as who knows where you’ll be for that time. But things to give energy and fill you with protein and fiber are a good idea. So granola or energy bars are a safe choice, as well as brown rice, dried fruit snacks and nuts.

Other things to include are flashlights, batteries, a small first aid kit, a small tool kit could be a good idea, as well as money and copies of important documents. If any of your family members take medication then having some in there, or at least their prescription, is a good idea too. Sanitation like some baby wipes and extra baby items if needed, like diapers and formula. It is a pretty easy kit to get together. It needs a small amount of time dedicated to it to get it done. So don’t delay!

Emergency Numbers

In an emergency, it can be hard to think of who you need to call. So having a list written out is a good idea. You could have the contacts in your cell phone too. But as your emergency could be lack of electricity, it could mean that you don’t have a way to charge your phone to get the numbers. So written copies is a good idea too. It should have family members numbers, as well as schools, work and hospitals. It is a good idea to have down the number of people like your local plumber, flood services, fire brigade and police. Then you can deal with any problem that you have quite quickly. Writing each immediate family members number down is a good idea. We should know their numbers off by heart, right? But as we just use cell phones these days we might not know what it is. But being able to get in touch with each other is going to be helpful should you get separated.

Make an Action Plan

Whether you live by yourself, with a partner or with a family, an action plan is going to be most helpful. In a stressful emergency situation, it can be hard to think straight. So already have a plan of action is a good idea. It could be to plan an escape route if there is a fire downstairs. You could decide which windows will open the largest and where the safest route down would be. Talking in through with your children is a great idea too. You could almost act it out, so they understand what you mean. Take the house fire example again. It could be that you get down to the floor and practice crawling from room to room, so that they learn about smoke and that the smoke will rise. So keeping low to the ground is the best thing to do. Then should the worst happen, everyone will have a memory of what is expected of them and where they should go.

Know Your Home

If I was to ask you to locate the water pipe stop switch, would you know where it is? Do you know where your boiler is or where the electrical fuse box is? If you don’t know these things, then you need to find out. It is a good idea for all of the family to know where they are too. If you’ve got a gas leak, you want to know how to switch off the gas or heating, so that things don’t get worse, for instance. So get to know your home and where these ‘emergency’ buttons are.

Store Food

Having some food storage in the home is an amazing idea. We might not have a disaster that directly affects our home or neighborhood. But more locally, there could be a flood or explosion on local farms or shortages of food because of a number of reasons. There could be a flood close by to us, meaning that we have to stay in our homes and can’t get out to the stores. So in order to survive at home, you do need to have as much food storage in the home as possible. Think of tinned and dried goods like beans, rice, sauces, tinned fruit and tinned vegetables. It might not be the most glamorous foods, but it will sustain you should you need it.

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Ideas That Will Make Your Bedroom The Ultimate Sleeping Space

If you struggle to sleep right now, there may be a number of reasons for this. Perhaps you’re watching too much TV, or consuming too much caffeine. However, it could simply be because your bedroom is not the right sleeping space for you. Making your bedroom the ultimate relaxing retreat will give you the perfect space to get your rest each night. You can’t put a price on a good night’s sleep! Here are some ideas that will help you:

Change The Color Of Your Walls
The color of your bedroom can have the biggest impact on your mood and the way you sleep. Color psychology/therapy is a real thing, and you can use them to your advantage to have a better night’s sleep. Think about it: how well do you think you’d relax with bright red on your walls? Chances are, not very well. The color blue is associated with relaxation, and can have a great effect on those who want a better night’s sleep. However, to some it can feel too cold for the bedroom, or even too masculine. Color can be down to preference, but it’s a good idea to check out the mood of a color first, and thinking about how it makes you feel. A color like lilac or green may work just as well. Neutral can work with pretty much any decor, but where’s the fun in having a neutral bedroom? If you like, you can make a neutral bedroom more interesting by adding colorful accents to break up the space.


Include A Bed Canopy
A bed canopy can make your bed feel like a relaxing, private space. If you have always looked at canopies and loved the way they look, it could be time to incorporate one into your bedroom. They are fairly cheap, and there are even tutorials out there that could help you to create one yourself. There’s nothing dreamier!

Test Out Different Mattresses
Make sure you have the perfect mattress for your needs. Mattresses need to be replaced after a while, so make sure you know how long yours is due to last and make a mental note to replace it when you need to. It’s usually best to test out mattresses in person, rather than to order one blindly off the internet. By lying on them and figuring out how much support they offer, you can find the right mattress for your needs. Some people need a harder mattress, some need a softer mattress. Make sure you know what you need for the best sleep. You may need to take your partner with you if you don’t sleep alone. You want them to be happy with your choice too!

Get The Right Bed Accessories
Not only is having the right mattress essential, but the right bed accessories too. Things like bamboo bed sheets can be super comfortable and feel great on the skin, which promotes a better sleep. Layering up your pillows and having some cozy throws on there will make it look super inviting too, so you just can’t wait to jump into it each night!

Focus On Mood Lighting
You don’t usually need bright task lighting in the bedroom. Obviously this will depend on you, but you should definitely focus on mood lighting. Mood lighting can help you to wind down and relax in your bedroom before you sleep, whether you’re getting dressed for bed or meditating. Having a dimmer switch is a good idea, but a number of candles can help too. Some people like to have things like fairy lights to add to the relaxing atmosphere.

Remove Your TV
Having a TV in the bedroom is convenient. After all, who doesn’t love to be super comfortable while they enjoy their favorite shows on TV? That being said, having a TV in the bedroom can disturb your sleep in a number of ways. You may find that the light emitted by the TV, even if only small, can keep you awake at night. Not only that, associating your bedroom with watching TV can confuse your brain and keep you awake too. If you want your bedroom to be as relaxing as possible, it’s a good idea to remove your TV. It’s also a good idea to try to get rid of any other small lights emitted by things like alarm clocks. You want your room to be as dark as possible!

Don’t Do Too Much In The Bedroom
You don’t really want to associate your bedroom with anything other than night time activities, such as reading and sleep. If you work in your bedroom, for example, this can disturb your sleeping pattern. You might find yourself worrying about work as you try to get some shut eye! This can be purely psychological, but it’s worth being picky about what you do in your bedroom so you can always drift off to sleep easily in there without worrying. You want total peace of mind, and to leave your troubles at the door when you enter.

Try A Little Feng Shui
Feng Shui might seem strange to you, but it can definitely help people sleep with some of the principles. For example, feng shui experts suggest you have a plant in your bedroom. Plants are calming to look at and can lower stress levels, which can help you to feel better when trying to get some sleep. You should also have your bed in the ‘commanding position’, which means facing the door so you’re aware whenever somebody enters the room. There are many other principles you can try too, to help you to get that good ‘chi’ flowing through.  

Get An Aroma Diffuser
An aromatherapy diffuser can help to use more of your senses by emitting a lovely scent that helps you to doze off. You simply choose an essential oil that you like, such as lavender (known for promoting sleep), and place a few drops inside with your water. This keeps the air in the room moist, so it’s great for those who have breathing difficulties and dry skin. It’ll also help you to breathe in the goodness of the essential oil, which will help you to sleep better and even promote other well being effects. The benefits of aromatherapy are endless, and diffusers can be super cheap!

Keep It Clean and Clutter Free
Keeping your room clean is really important, unless you want to breath in a ton of dust while you sleep. This can make allergies worse and even cause other health problems. Keeping the room clutter-free will ensure you aren’t worrying about the mess while you try and sleep. A lot can be said for a clutter free home. Some people believe that keeping it that way will allow you to experience more of the good things in life! Perhaps that’s another feng shui principle, but the majority of people will find that keeping their home free of clutter is one of the best things they ever do.


Keep The Light Out
Sometimes, the sun rises sooner than you’d like and you get rudely awoken. After all, we’re programmed to sleep when it’s dark and wake up when it’s light. It could be worth investing in a good pair of blackout blinds to keep the light out as much as possible. There are other options for your window treatments too, depending on what you’d like to achieve with the look and light in your room. You could have both a blind and a curtain, or just a pair of thick dark curtains to help shield you from the light.

Get The Temperature Right
Finally, the temperature of the room needs to be just right for you to fall asleep and stay asleep. Try to aim for 18-22 degrees celsius, but remember that it’ll be different for each individual. If your room is too cold, you won’t sleep, and a room that is too hot will interrupt your sleep quality too. Test out different temperatures and make a note of how you sleep.

Use these ideas and suggestions to improve your bedroom, make it more relaxing, and enjoy a better quality of sleep each and every night. You won’t believe how productive you can be when you get the right amount of high quality sleep. You won’t be waking up at all hours during the night, and you’ll wake up in the morning feeling refreshed. You can also try doing things like wearing earplugs to block out noise, and even wearing socks. Some people say they hate wearing socks to bed, but science has proved that it can help you to wake up less during the night!

If you try these things and you still have trouble sleeping, you could have a bigger problem. You could consider visiting a doctor or even a psychologist to help you get to the root of your problems and sleep better once and for all.

If you have tips of your own, leave them below. Thanks for reading!

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