He's Going to Spring Break Without Me?!

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Hey Ellen,
I have been dating this guy one and off for 5 years. We do argue about little things but we really do have a lot of love for each other. It seems like I’m ready for marriage and he’s ready to party. Our relationship is now officially tested because he’s going to Cancun for spring break. I don’t see why he would want to go on a party singles vacation when he’s in a committed relationship. I feel like I’m trying really hard to make this work and he just thinks everything is perfect. I’m going insane what should I do?

Dear Anonymous:
If I were you, I wouldn’t waste anymore of my time.  I could sit here and tell you that you should talk about your feelings with him, and explain to him how it hurts you, etc. BUT, honestly, I think he’s just the wrong type of guy for you.  There are guys out there that don’t like to party a lot, and ones that do.  You obviously are on two different levels and unless you think you can only get HAPPIER in this relationship, I would end it. 
You don’t deserve to have someone that will go on party vacations and leave you sitting around wondering what’s going on.  Whether or not you trust him, I still think it’s not cool.  It’s one thing if it was a guy’s only fishing trip over a weekend or something like that but Cancun and Spring Break? Sorry, I don’t think even I could deal with that.  Girl, you better get movin!  And while you’re at it, start planning your OWN vacation…. GIRLS ONLY!
Good luck!


  1. I agree with Ellen. Cancun and Spring Break...without you?

  2. From a male perspective, "He's just NOT that into you." You may both have some sort of love for one another but it is not the love that either of you are seeking. He wants something else and he has no clue what. You deserve better.


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