Have you ever wondered why some people’s presence seems to capture the room? They walk in and carry an aurora of attractiveness - without doing much! That's the power of self-confidence. Many people falsely associate self-confidence with arrogance - being selfish and pompous. While this may be the case with some overconfident people, being self-confident is certainly a more desirable trait - making such people an ideal choice for romantic partners, business partners, and friends. So what are some common traits of self-confidence? Here are some things to consider.
Positive self-image
Insecurities are a normal part of life. They only become problematic when they consume you. The major insecurity many people deal with is their outward appearance. This insecurity has led many to take drastic measures to be socially accepted or conform to society's definition of the right self-image. Furthermore, this has caused many to find self-worth in other things, such as relationships and social media followers, not themselves. It has also led to people feeling more depressed and unhappy, carrying negative self-images. The truth is if you are not proud of what you look like, who would?
People with self-confidence maintain a positive self-image. They do so by investing in themselves in ways they are proud of! Rather than conforming to what society says, this group of people does things that make them feel good about themselves. For example, after exercising to lose unhealthy weight, they may take the next step of getting surgery for better fat transfer BBL results. Doing this would make them feel more comfortable and confident in their skin!
Non-judgemental
It is never pleasant being around someone who has to bring someone else down to feel good about themselves. Such people are deemed as insecure and quite mean. The opposite is found in the presence of people who have high levels of self-confidence. A unique trait in confident people is their reluctance to judge a book by its cover. They prefer looking at people in a way that highlights how their differences make them special and understand that each person may have something different to offer. Therefore, instead of unhealthily competing with others, they are open to embracing differences and getting along harmoniously. This makes them a delight to be around and a bright light of positivity that makes everyone attracted to them, so keep this in mind.
They are not "yes men"
Being easily swayed into doing this, you do not enjoy or against what you believe may give you the impression you are likable. But that's far from the truth. The more reluctant you are to say "no," the more miserable you would be, as you're likely to express negative effects such as stress, depression, and burnout. Additionally, being a "yes man" turns people away as you create a picture of being a people-pleaser or not self-aware. However, saying "no" all the time can make you difficult to work with or form a relationship with. Self-confident people can draw a healthy balance.
When you are self-confident, you know what you want and say what you mean. This means you are unlikely to take on responsibilities you are not ready for or agree to things that go against your belief. You are also comfortable giving your opinion and ready to accept you're wrong— or defend yourself. These qualities attract people to you as they know you are real in your interactions and wouldn't do just anything to be liked, so keep this in mind.
Knowledgeable and outspoken
Imagine talking about something you know little to nothing about. It would be difficult holding a conversation on that topic, wouldn't it? People can usually tell when you don't know what you are about, so it can be challenging to get them to listen to your go on about something with false or no information. So, what makes confident people so different? Self-confident people know what they know and are not afraid to admit to things they don't know. In a conversation, a confident person is not embarrassed to be corrected but instead would accept it with appreciation.
You can be outspoken once you are knowledgeable, so keep this in mind. You can confidently give out information, state facts, or participate in a discussion of a given topic. It also enables you to speak with conviction and win over people.
They are not attention-seekers
It is a common misconception that self-confident people always try to get attention from people. Attention-seekers tend to do anything to be the star of the room— from being unnecessarily loud or trying too hard to stand out. In contrast, confident people quickly diffuse the attention they are given. They understand that they stand out by simply being themselves. Therefore, they wouldn't see the need to attract attention themselves.
Great communicators
Communication is key in every relationship, be it romantic or business. Speaking and listening are the essential components of effective communication. Being able to say what you must in a way that can be understood and processed ensures that you receive the right feedback. Likewise, listening to what others have to say makes them feel valued and enables you to give the right and corresponding response, so keep this in mind.
When you are confident, you can properly balance these two communication elements regardless of the preferred medium. As confident people are knowledgeable, they can communicate information concisely. They also pay attention to other forms of non-verbal communication cues, such as body language and eye contact. They also speak with certainty and conviction, leaving little room for doubt or confusion. Additionally, they are great listeners and are usually more interested in interactions than what interactions bring to them. For example, at a career networking event, the average person may have the aim of getting a few contact information details from participants. A confident person is interested in knowing more about the person and their time interacting. Therefore, they actively listen and are engaged in conversation— which is a quality everyone enjoys.
Positive self-image
Insecurities are a normal part of life. They only become problematic when they consume you. The major insecurity many people deal with is their outward appearance. This insecurity has led many to take drastic measures to be socially accepted or conform to society's definition of the right self-image. Furthermore, this has caused many to find self-worth in other things, such as relationships and social media followers, not themselves. It has also led to people feeling more depressed and unhappy, carrying negative self-images. The truth is if you are not proud of what you look like, who would?
People with self-confidence maintain a positive self-image. They do so by investing in themselves in ways they are proud of! Rather than conforming to what society says, this group of people does things that make them feel good about themselves. For example, after exercising to lose unhealthy weight, they may take the next step of getting surgery for better fat transfer BBL results. Doing this would make them feel more comfortable and confident in their skin!
Non-judgemental
It is never pleasant being around someone who has to bring someone else down to feel good about themselves. Such people are deemed as insecure and quite mean. The opposite is found in the presence of people who have high levels of self-confidence. A unique trait in confident people is their reluctance to judge a book by its cover. They prefer looking at people in a way that highlights how their differences make them special and understand that each person may have something different to offer. Therefore, instead of unhealthily competing with others, they are open to embracing differences and getting along harmoniously. This makes them a delight to be around and a bright light of positivity that makes everyone attracted to them, so keep this in mind.
They are not "yes men"
Being easily swayed into doing this, you do not enjoy or against what you believe may give you the impression you are likable. But that's far from the truth. The more reluctant you are to say "no," the more miserable you would be, as you're likely to express negative effects such as stress, depression, and burnout. Additionally, being a "yes man" turns people away as you create a picture of being a people-pleaser or not self-aware. However, saying "no" all the time can make you difficult to work with or form a relationship with. Self-confident people can draw a healthy balance.
When you are self-confident, you know what you want and say what you mean. This means you are unlikely to take on responsibilities you are not ready for or agree to things that go against your belief. You are also comfortable giving your opinion and ready to accept you're wrong— or defend yourself. These qualities attract people to you as they know you are real in your interactions and wouldn't do just anything to be liked, so keep this in mind.
Knowledgeable and outspoken
Imagine talking about something you know little to nothing about. It would be difficult holding a conversation on that topic, wouldn't it? People can usually tell when you don't know what you are about, so it can be challenging to get them to listen to your go on about something with false or no information. So, what makes confident people so different? Self-confident people know what they know and are not afraid to admit to things they don't know. In a conversation, a confident person is not embarrassed to be corrected but instead would accept it with appreciation.
You can be outspoken once you are knowledgeable, so keep this in mind. You can confidently give out information, state facts, or participate in a discussion of a given topic. It also enables you to speak with conviction and win over people.
They are not attention-seekers
It is a common misconception that self-confident people always try to get attention from people. Attention-seekers tend to do anything to be the star of the room— from being unnecessarily loud or trying too hard to stand out. In contrast, confident people quickly diffuse the attention they are given. They understand that they stand out by simply being themselves. Therefore, they wouldn't see the need to attract attention themselves.
Great communicators
Communication is key in every relationship, be it romantic or business. Speaking and listening are the essential components of effective communication. Being able to say what you must in a way that can be understood and processed ensures that you receive the right feedback. Likewise, listening to what others have to say makes them feel valued and enables you to give the right and corresponding response, so keep this in mind.
When you are confident, you can properly balance these two communication elements regardless of the preferred medium. As confident people are knowledgeable, they can communicate information concisely. They also pay attention to other forms of non-verbal communication cues, such as body language and eye contact. They also speak with certainty and conviction, leaving little room for doubt or confusion. Additionally, they are great listeners and are usually more interested in interactions than what interactions bring to them. For example, at a career networking event, the average person may have the aim of getting a few contact information details from participants. A confident person is interested in knowing more about the person and their time interacting. Therefore, they actively listen and are engaged in conversation— which is a quality everyone enjoys.
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