Today's post is from a blogger I have just adored for a while now - Jessalynn Jones from Doable Simplicity.
Are you beautiful?
That is a weighty question isn’t it? And it looms inside the hearts and minds of every woman I know, including myself.
Are you valuable?
That’s an even bigger question and so often the answer we give ourselves is heart breaking.
But what if you asked someone else? Would they say the things you say to yourself? How would they value you?
I guarantee they would be kinder.
If you hate your pictures, won’t wear shorts, feel that you are not valuable or capable, or are afraid to try something you dream of what is missing?
You are missing self-worth and it’s one of most important things you can develop. So let’s turn the tide and help you start realizing how beautiful, capable and amazing you really are!
Why is Self-Worth Important?
Why do I say that self worth is one of the most important things you can develop?
Self-worth is vitally important because without it you are looking at a false reality. You are at a fun house and your mirror is showing you ridiculous flaws that couldn’t even be possible.
And with that view of yourself you will never be able to muster up the courage and power and unique abilities you have. Then you will rob the world of your potential.
It’s not fair to the world and it’s not fair to you.
What Is Self-Worth?
So what is self-worth anyway?
Is it egotism and arrogance? Does it mean you need to brag and strut around like you are the center of the universe? Will lots of makeup and fancy clothing bring self-worth?
Not at all. That is just another extreme, a fun house mirror, a lie.
Real self-worth is a proper estimation of oneself. It is the ability to see your strengths and weaknesses in their true proportions.
Self-worth is the ability to value the good in yourself while believing that you can always improve the rest. It is also the ability to accept yourself as enough right now.
It sounds next to impossible to see yourself the right way when you have been looking at a fun house mirror all your life.
But take a moment and look through the eyes of those who love you. They accept you for the good and the bad. And they love the you that you are right now!
How can you think like them? What can you do to improve the way you view and value yourself?
That is a weighty question isn’t it? And it looms inside the hearts and minds of every woman I know, including myself.
Are you valuable?
That’s an even bigger question and so often the answer we give ourselves is heart breaking.
But what if you asked someone else? Would they say the things you say to yourself? How would they value you?
I guarantee they would be kinder.
If you hate your pictures, won’t wear shorts, feel that you are not valuable or capable, or are afraid to try something you dream of what is missing?
You are missing self-worth and it’s one of most important things you can develop. So let’s turn the tide and help you start realizing how beautiful, capable and amazing you really are!
Why is Self-Worth Important?
Why do I say that self worth is one of the most important things you can develop?
Self-worth is vitally important because without it you are looking at a false reality. You are at a fun house and your mirror is showing you ridiculous flaws that couldn’t even be possible.
And with that view of yourself you will never be able to muster up the courage and power and unique abilities you have. Then you will rob the world of your potential.
It’s not fair to the world and it’s not fair to you.
What Is Self-Worth?
So what is self-worth anyway?
Is it egotism and arrogance? Does it mean you need to brag and strut around like you are the center of the universe? Will lots of makeup and fancy clothing bring self-worth?
Not at all. That is just another extreme, a fun house mirror, a lie.
Real self-worth is a proper estimation of oneself. It is the ability to see your strengths and weaknesses in their true proportions.
Self-worth is the ability to value the good in yourself while believing that you can always improve the rest. It is also the ability to accept yourself as enough right now.
It sounds next to impossible to see yourself the right way when you have been looking at a fun house mirror all your life.
But take a moment and look through the eyes of those who love you. They accept you for the good and the bad. And they love the you that you are right now!
How can you think like them? What can you do to improve the way you view and value yourself?
Let’s discuss 5 steps you can take to improve your self-worth and let your true beauty and value shine through!
1: Talk Kindly to Yourself
First of all, how do you talk to yourself? Do you say kind things or are you cruel?
Imagine you were at a coffee shop and someone was saying out loud to you the things you think about yourself. Would someone overhearing think you had a kind friend or would they be tempted to step in and stop the verbal abuse?
It’s important to think about this because we naturally tend towards the negative and if we have low self-worth it is because we are viewing ourselves very harshly.
Instead of looking for the things you dislike about yourself start trying to find things you appreciate.
For example I have changed the narrative about myself. I used to obsess over my big fat thighs and now I notice their strength and appreciate the beauty of the curves. Also, I used to agonize about how I wasn’t the life of the party type but now I appreciate that I am observant, thoughtful, and always willing to help.
What about you? Can you find at least three things you appreciate about your appearance and at least 6 things you appreciate about your personality and inner qualities?
When you make a practice of finding the good in yourself and telling yourself kind things you will start to feel a lot more comfortable in your skin. You will also be able to let your inner qualities shine.
Start practicing positive self-talk to improve your self-worth because you believe what you tell yourself!
2: Make Time for Self-Care
Another thing that can make us feel low comes so naturally to women. We get so tied up taking care of our families and our jobs and other people that we never take any time for ourselves. In fact, we feel selfish and guilty if we do.
But truly, is there anything wrong with taking care of yourself? Would you feel guilty about brushing your teeth or taking a shower? Of course not!
It is equally important to take time for other forms of self-care!
When you think of self-care do you think of facials and pedicures? If you do maybe you think you don’t have time for that and it doesn’t sound that interesting anyway. I used to think that too!
But girly stuff like that (which can be nice by the way) is not all that self-care is. Think about the word. Self-care is anything you do to take care of yourself!
That could mean you take a self-care Sunday with the famous pampering routine.
But it could mean you go to bed on time, pick up a form of exercise you enjoy, pack healthy lunches, make time for your favorite hobby, or meet a friend for coffee.
1: Talk Kindly to Yourself
First of all, how do you talk to yourself? Do you say kind things or are you cruel?
Imagine you were at a coffee shop and someone was saying out loud to you the things you think about yourself. Would someone overhearing think you had a kind friend or would they be tempted to step in and stop the verbal abuse?
It’s important to think about this because we naturally tend towards the negative and if we have low self-worth it is because we are viewing ourselves very harshly.
Instead of looking for the things you dislike about yourself start trying to find things you appreciate.
For example I have changed the narrative about myself. I used to obsess over my big fat thighs and now I notice their strength and appreciate the beauty of the curves. Also, I used to agonize about how I wasn’t the life of the party type but now I appreciate that I am observant, thoughtful, and always willing to help.
What about you? Can you find at least three things you appreciate about your appearance and at least 6 things you appreciate about your personality and inner qualities?
When you make a practice of finding the good in yourself and telling yourself kind things you will start to feel a lot more comfortable in your skin. You will also be able to let your inner qualities shine.
Start practicing positive self-talk to improve your self-worth because you believe what you tell yourself!
2: Make Time for Self-Care
Another thing that can make us feel low comes so naturally to women. We get so tied up taking care of our families and our jobs and other people that we never take any time for ourselves. In fact, we feel selfish and guilty if we do.
But truly, is there anything wrong with taking care of yourself? Would you feel guilty about brushing your teeth or taking a shower? Of course not!
It is equally important to take time for other forms of self-care!
When you think of self-care do you think of facials and pedicures? If you do maybe you think you don’t have time for that and it doesn’t sound that interesting anyway. I used to think that too!
But girly stuff like that (which can be nice by the way) is not all that self-care is. Think about the word. Self-care is anything you do to take care of yourself!
That could mean you take a self-care Sunday with the famous pampering routine.
But it could mean you go to bed on time, pick up a form of exercise you enjoy, pack healthy lunches, make time for your favorite hobby, or meet a friend for coffee.
Taking time for self-care means just that. Taking time to care for yourself. And it isn’t selfish. If you don’t make sure you are healthy and rested you are no fun to be around. If you don’t feel like yourself anymore you are also robbing those around you of that awesome person.
When you don’t make time for self-care your self-worth will suffer and you will feel like a robot instead of a unique person. Take care of yourself and you will improve your self-worth!
3: Keep Growing to Improve Self-Worth
But don’t stop there! You are awesome but you can always improve. Knowing that is the key to self-worth. I mean, you aren’t frozen in time. If there is something you want to change you can!
You will feel happier if you keep growing so make sure that you keep doing new things that light up your brain!
Learn a new language, a musical instrument, or a new hobby! Work on your health and fitness. Read books on topics you don’t understand! Start a side hustle. Improve a personal quality like how well you listen or how often you do things to serve others.
Like a beautiful flower, if you aren’t growing you are dead. If your self-worth is low right now is it because you haven’t challenged yourself in a while? Are you in a rut? Look for the sun and start growing again!
4: Make Others Happy
As I mentioned before sometimes our self-worth is low because we have been too focused on others and not taking time for self-care. But the opposite is equally true. Sometimes our self-worth is low because we have been too isolated, too insular.
What can you do to improve your self-worth? Simply put you need to be a giver because “there is more happiness in giving than in receiving.”
When you cook a meal for an elderly person, take time to listen to a friend, engage in a volunteer work, baby sit for your sister, or call your parents you will feel true joy from the joy you gave them.
A person with good self-worth will be able to do these things to serve others because they are comfortable with who they are and can turn their attention to making others feel good too.
Try this. When talking to someone ask them questions about their work, their life, and their feelings instead always talking about yourself. You will find that they will be very drawn to you and that will improve your self-worth and theirs as well!
5: Be You!
Last but not least, you can’t have good self-worth if you don’t know yourself at all.
Sometimes we spend so much time trying to fit into other peoples molds. We do this in an effort to be liked, to be accepted, and to meet expectations. But that can cause us to forget who we really are.
Here’s the thing. Just because other people enjoy something doesn’t mean you have to. And just because you like something doesn’t mean other people have to. You are a unique and so is everyone else. It’s okay to just like what you like.
So stop and think about what you enjoy. Do you enjoy the things you are doing in your spare time or are you just fitting in with those around you? Is your style true to your personality or is it more in line with what you think others will like.
It’s important to be yourself! Accept the things you like and do them more. Dress with your style (you can do that and still be appropriate).
Don’t keep doing things that you don’t enjoy. Start learning how to declutter your home and life of all the things that aren’t really you!
You might even find you enjoy a more minimalist lifestyle that gives you more time for things you love to do.
The more you learn to accept yourself the more you will find yourself.
I can speak from personal experience. When I wear clothes I love and do things I enjoy and know my strengths and weaknesses and ways I want to improve I feel a lot better about myself than when I am just going through the motions.
So it’s that easy! Just be yourself! That will definitely improve your self-worth.
Improve Your Self Worth for a Happy Life
We all want to have a happy simple life but we often drown in the mundane. We want to feel good about ourselves but then we become our own worst enemy.
But it doesn’t have to be that way! When you stop and open your eyes you can see yourself in a true mirror! A mirror that shows you your beauty and things other people love about you. A mirror that shows you the things you can improve so you keep growing!
If you improve your self-worth you will never feel hopeless. Life will be a beautiful journey and you will enjoy taking it one step at a time!
With better self-worth you will be more fun to be around. Instead of worrying about how you look or if you are capable you will be focused on lifting up others and inspiring them!
And last but not least, when you take the time to improve your self-worth you will be happy, confident, and brave enough to go for your dreams!
When you don’t make time for self-care your self-worth will suffer and you will feel like a robot instead of a unique person. Take care of yourself and you will improve your self-worth!
3: Keep Growing to Improve Self-Worth
But don’t stop there! You are awesome but you can always improve. Knowing that is the key to self-worth. I mean, you aren’t frozen in time. If there is something you want to change you can!
You will feel happier if you keep growing so make sure that you keep doing new things that light up your brain!
Learn a new language, a musical instrument, or a new hobby! Work on your health and fitness. Read books on topics you don’t understand! Start a side hustle. Improve a personal quality like how well you listen or how often you do things to serve others.
Like a beautiful flower, if you aren’t growing you are dead. If your self-worth is low right now is it because you haven’t challenged yourself in a while? Are you in a rut? Look for the sun and start growing again!
4: Make Others Happy
As I mentioned before sometimes our self-worth is low because we have been too focused on others and not taking time for self-care. But the opposite is equally true. Sometimes our self-worth is low because we have been too isolated, too insular.
What can you do to improve your self-worth? Simply put you need to be a giver because “there is more happiness in giving than in receiving.”
When you cook a meal for an elderly person, take time to listen to a friend, engage in a volunteer work, baby sit for your sister, or call your parents you will feel true joy from the joy you gave them.
A person with good self-worth will be able to do these things to serve others because they are comfortable with who they are and can turn their attention to making others feel good too.
Try this. When talking to someone ask them questions about their work, their life, and their feelings instead always talking about yourself. You will find that they will be very drawn to you and that will improve your self-worth and theirs as well!
5: Be You!
Last but not least, you can’t have good self-worth if you don’t know yourself at all.
Sometimes we spend so much time trying to fit into other peoples molds. We do this in an effort to be liked, to be accepted, and to meet expectations. But that can cause us to forget who we really are.
Here’s the thing. Just because other people enjoy something doesn’t mean you have to. And just because you like something doesn’t mean other people have to. You are a unique and so is everyone else. It’s okay to just like what you like.
So stop and think about what you enjoy. Do you enjoy the things you are doing in your spare time or are you just fitting in with those around you? Is your style true to your personality or is it more in line with what you think others will like.
It’s important to be yourself! Accept the things you like and do them more. Dress with your style (you can do that and still be appropriate).
Don’t keep doing things that you don’t enjoy. Start learning how to declutter your home and life of all the things that aren’t really you!
You might even find you enjoy a more minimalist lifestyle that gives you more time for things you love to do.
The more you learn to accept yourself the more you will find yourself.
I can speak from personal experience. When I wear clothes I love and do things I enjoy and know my strengths and weaknesses and ways I want to improve I feel a lot better about myself than when I am just going through the motions.
So it’s that easy! Just be yourself! That will definitely improve your self-worth.
Improve Your Self Worth for a Happy Life
We all want to have a happy simple life but we often drown in the mundane. We want to feel good about ourselves but then we become our own worst enemy.
But it doesn’t have to be that way! When you stop and open your eyes you can see yourself in a true mirror! A mirror that shows you your beauty and things other people love about you. A mirror that shows you the things you can improve so you keep growing!
If you improve your self-worth you will never feel hopeless. Life will be a beautiful journey and you will enjoy taking it one step at a time!
With better self-worth you will be more fun to be around. Instead of worrying about how you look or if you are capable you will be focused on lifting up others and inspiring them!
And last but not least, when you take the time to improve your self-worth you will be happy, confident, and brave enough to go for your dreams!
Jessalynn Jones writes her blog Doable Simplicity
with the goal of helping you simplify your life so you have time and
energy for matters most to you! Her blog will help you declutter your
life and home so that you can follow your dreams!
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