How To Prepare If You're Dealing with Divorce

Friday, April 9, 2021


This is a topic many people don't want to think about until they absolutely have to but when it comes to divorce, you must be prepared.  Life is unpredictable, and despite your best intentions,  there are times when you realize the path your heading towards isn't the one you originally planned when it comes to your marriage.  So whatever the reasons or circumstances surrounding your marriage, there are some things that everyone should be prepared to do when it comes to the possibility of divorce.  Hopefully reading this can help you and give you some insight and motivation on how to prepare for this new life path.

1. Hire A Divorce Attorney

Depending on where you live, you may have a lot of options in your area for a divorce attorney.   You want to find an attorney close to where you live so you can easily meet with them and go over things.  A good divorce attorney can help you navigate your future and it's important to have one even if you think you'll have an uncontested divorce. Like The Harris Firm states regarding uncontested divorce Huntsville Alabama, an uncontested divorce is when both parties agree on property, custody, and child custody, an attorney can help you get this arrangement going officially, which can make things easier on all parties involved. An attorney will explain the entire process to you and let you know what you can expect depending on your specific situation.  An attorney is always a smart choice.

2. Get Your Finances in Order
It's always a good idea to start putting money aside right away, especially if you are unsure how you will handle paying bills and finding a new place to live on your own.  That's obviously why I tell everyone that they need an Emergency Fund for big life changes such as divorce. You will also need to take a close look at your budget and make some major changes so that you are living within your means as a single person. This might also mean you need to pick up a second job, eliminate some money expenses, and even find a more affordable home for yourself. 

3. Tell Your Circle
When you are about to embark on a life changing journey, it's always important to surround yourself with people that love and support you.  You will likely need the support no matter how amicable the divorce is. Keep your most trusted friends and family in the loop with what's going on and don't worry about being embarrassed or feeling judged because your support group should love you and support you unconditionally. It's also important to tell someone you can trust at work, hopefully that's your boss, that you may be out of the office more often as you get your life in order.  

4. Keep A Level Head
No matter what reasons you have for embarking down this new path, stay reasonable and as calm as can be.  Don't make any rash decisions you may regret, or talk bad publicly about your spouse.  Take the advice of your lawyer on how to handle everything going on in your life. 

5. Make a List
So you will definitely need a master to do list of things you'll need to do for your divorce as well as any specific items you hope to get (maybe a bed set that you yourself purchased before you were married).   When your head is feeling overwhelmed, having everything in writing in the form of a checklist will be a lifesaver for you. Share everything with your attorney and leave nothing out.  It's important for you to cover all bases.

Hopefully you are prepared and have a handful of loved ones to support you along the way.

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