Ask Away Blog: Feeling Neglected

Feeling Neglected

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Ellen:

I have a question. How do I get my husband to love and appreciate me more? It has been hard with him just working but I don’t know what I can do to make him say I love you more and Wow you look great today.  I just don’t feel loved anymore and I think he is unhappy with me. 
Anonymous

Hi there,
Have you talked to him about it yet? It might ease your mind to sit down and ask him how he really feels about everything.  You can also say that sometimes you feel as if you don’t make him happy anymore and ask if there is anything you should work on.  Maybe he needs YOU to say that you love him more, and give HIM compliments.  I know plenty of guys that like when the girl does that stuff too and sometimes they worry just like we do. 

If there are some problems, maybe you should spend more time together doing romantic things.  You could go to a really nice dinner for just the two of you, go on a little getaway, or just have a date night each week.
If your marriage has more serious issues than that you should probably seek counseling. 

Good luck with everything, I hope my suggestions help you!

Ellen

2 comments:

  1. I have struggled with this myself. One day I was thinking about how neglected and unloved I felt when suddenly I had this thought: I wonder how HE is feeling? Does HE feel loved?

    It sounds simple but it changed my whole marriage. After than whenever I felt unloved I would do something loving for my husband. I would shift the focus from what I was feeling to thinking about how he was feeling. It really did the trick.

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  2. I was once told that for men a little goes a long way, meaning a little extra effort on your part, a special meal or dessert a little more complementing or a little more affection. Try it, it works. @AMerems

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