[PSA] Your In-Home Product Parties + Why I'll Always RSVP NO

Wednesday, August 31, 2016

I've made these facts known on social media throughout the years but I figured it's time to put it into a blog post.   Why? Because every week I get different invites to an in-home (or even an online) party for something being sold whether it's jewelry, bags, skincare products, food, or nail decals.   It's not that I get mad at anyone that invites me to those, it's just that by now I have a reputation as being the person that always says no.   Still, some people don't know that and they continue to invite me to things then text me to make sure I got the Facebook invite. 

It's not that I fault you for doing that, because by all means I encourage and support people to work hard for any extra money they can get.  And I fully understand how these things work, and no, don't worry I'm not trying to claim it's all a scam, because it's not always a scam.  

It's just that it's NOT my thing.  But for some reason, many times when I say NO, I either get questioned or I get responses back trying to offer alternatives.  So here it is.... a blog post with all the reasons why I will RSVP No, regardless of what alternatives there are.   No matter what it is, or who you are, my response will always be NO.  And since lots of people still have other suggestions like "just come for the food" or "you don't have to buy anything", my points below still explain why it won't fly for me.

[1] It's Not In My Budget.
No, really....it's NOT in my budget.   If you know me at all you know I have a cash envelope system and everything in my bank account is put into categories.   Every dollar of each paycheck is accounted for with none left over. I DO NOT allow a free spending category for anything that is offered at an in-home or online party.  My next point will explain more why I don't need to, but for now just let me be clear that I literally do not have the money to spend on anything other than what I normally buy.

[2] I Don't Need It.
I get my food from my garden or giant, and I make my own rubs, sauces, etc so I don't need to purchase pre-packaged ones that are more costly.  I have plenty of purses and totes from over the years.  I don't use anything on my nails so I don't need Jamberry because I'll never use them.  I am so stocked up on makeup from being a blogger that it's absolutely absurd for me to even consider buying more makeup.  My makeup also works just fine for me.   I have every piece of jewelry I'll ever need for now and I actually don't even wear jewelry that much so buying any more is a total waste.  I don't really use air freshners or wax melts in my home.  I don't need to.  If anything I am fine with the all natural soy candles I get from blogging here and there or as gifts around the holidays.   I don't need any supplements. I just don't. I shouldn't have to explain that. The answer is no.

[3] I've Tried Them.
It's not my first time using or hearing about whatever it is you are selling.   I've tried the tote bags and I was never a fan.  While the food is good, I like making my own things.  The jewelry is okay, but not worth the money for the 1 or 2 times a year I end up wearing it.  I'm just not a fan enough of any of it to buy it. 

[4] I Had a Spending Addiction.
I was able to rack up thousands and thousands of dollars on my credit cards just buying stuff I didn't need.   It was an actual addiction. I've come a long long looooong way and I do not need to be tempted again.  And I say that beacuse it is tempting.  Because I will feel obligated to buy something even if you tell me I don't have to.  Of course then I always say "then what the hell is the point of me coming."   But still,   it's too tempting for me to sit there for a couple hours and NOT buy something just out of habit. 

[5] If I go to One, I Have to go to All.
Do you know how many things I get invited to? A LOT.  Seriously.  If I go to one, I have to go to others.  Everyone knows by now that I'm not a fan and that I really never go.  So if I change that and make one single exception, then that opens up the gates. I just can't do it.  I can't do any of them.  Even if you are my good friend, I'm sorry but I just can't.  And the whole reason I never have gotten into those is because I don't want to invite people to them because I know how it feels. 

[6] I Don't Enjoy Them.
There, I said it.  I'm sorry but I don't enjoy them.  I'm not big on a social gatherings anyways.   If you really want to spend time with me let's set a date for dinner.  I really don't enjoy these in fact, I'm sorry to say but I feel it's a waste of my time and my time is VERY valuable to me.  When I'm not at work, or working on my part time job (my blog), I soak up every free minute I have to just relax and do whatever I want to do.  I feel super uncomfortable at them and I can't justify letting myself feel like that.  I feel awkward, I feel pressured, I feel insecure. 

[7] No I can't Blog Your Company.
When I blog about brands it's neutral brands that are just one company and one seller.   It's unfair to my friends and readers for me to try to influence anyone to buy from a specific person, especially when I'm not truly passionate about the product. I can't lie to my readers and I won't.  I am known as a blogger that finds deals wherever she can and I can always find comparable products at better prices so what kind of person would I be to lie just to promote your company?

So there....I got it all out and I really hope this post makes sense to people that feel the same way and to the people that wonder why I always RSVP no.

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  1. I'm with you there. They're just not my cup of tea and no I won't go just for the food because chances are I won't eat 95% of the food splayed out on the table, so really what IS the point.

    1. Yup. There's no point and when they try to tell me there is, I will keep saying no. LOL!

  2. Great post. I'm not a big fan of these types of parties either because I don't have the money most of the time, even if I DO want something and it's pretty rare that I do. Plus, most of these things just cost too much, I think, so if something looks good, I'm still thinking "not worth it."


    1. Exactly!! It's still not worth it. So I'm like let's see, I can spend this $40 on a simple lotion or I can be smart and use it on groceries! lol

  3. Great post! I also have a policy of not attending such parties, and that is exactly what I tell people when I'm invited. I have had the same thought as you when they say "no pressure to buy anything." Um, well, you wouldn't be having the party, or inviting people, me included, if you didn't expect people to purchase what you are selling. I also find those events super awkward and not at all enjoyable, and, yes a waste of time.

    1. OMG YES YES YES. its like if i dont have to buy anything...why are you bothering to want me there? Come on!


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