How to Work Through Your Grief for a Loved One

Thursday, November 7, 2019

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Grief hits us all at some point. It is the risk we take when we love and a natural process to help us heal and continue with our lives. While grief is never going to be fun, it can be cathartic and help you to re-evaluate your own lifestyle and move forwards in a positive and pro-active way.

Working through grief is different for everyone. We all cope in different ways and the feelings we experience may fluctuate and go through different phases to those around us. The important thing to remember is that however you grieve, it’s okay to feel this way. Traditions often help us to heal after a loss so it might be a good idea to consider doing these 3 things.

Memorialize Your Loved One

Different cultures memorialize people in different ways but one of the most common is a gravestone. Laying a gravestone is a way to create a space you can go when you miss your loved one and, with the help of a local gravestone maker, you can create something unique and beautiful for your loved one.

But this isn’t the only option. Scattering your loved one’s ashes in a place that means a lot to you is a particularly good way to memorialize a loved one into the landscape as is planting a tree or even creating a garden. Another nice way to remember someone is to light a candle when you think of them. This is something you can do in most churches but there’s no reason you can’t buy a candle to have at home too.
Hold a Wake

When someone passes, it is only natural to reaffirm your social connections with the people you love. Holding a wake is a popular option because it brings the community together and provides a chance to reminisce and comfort each other. Irish wakes are notorious for being exaggerated affairs with the full spectrum of emotion from crying to laughing. We could all learn a lot from this!

Holding a wake yourself is a nice way to bring everyone together and support the central family. Bringing plates for a buffet and sharing memories is a good way to work through some of your most immediate emotions. Looking at old pictures, singing songs together and telling stories are all good for the soul. 

Talk it Through

If you find that your grief isn’t ebbing or you are worried about depression or anxiety, it’s really important that you talk to someone about how you feel. Self care is a good place to start but discussing your feelings and working through your emotions with a close friend or even a therapist is a really good idea.

Because grief is different for everyone, talking to someone else is a brilliant way to gain a new perspective and begin to understand a little more about how you feel. There’s absolutely no shame in asking for help and no-one should try to get through grief on their own. It takes a community.


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