Moving On After An Ex Moved On {{Advice}}

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Hi Ellen,
Sometime in the past I had asked you for advice on how to move on from my ex marrying his rebound after 5 years of being together. It's been a year now and they're still together. I took your advice and tried to move on by focusing on myself and doing things to distract me but for some reason it's been getting a little harder everytime. There are times where I can go a few weeks without thinking about him and then it hits me. Today I found out he is having a baby with this girl. I couldn't take it and began to tear up. I kept asking myself how he could marry a girl after 2 months and not marry me after 5 years. Or how could he have a baby with this girl and told me everytime in those entire 5 years he didn't want kids.? I'm at a lost point right now. I'm sad, upset, confused and I don't know what to think anymore. I know I need to keep moving on but it's been a rough year trying new things to move on. Please any advice would be helpful.

Dear Valerie:

Try and accept the fact that maybe you guys just weren't meant for each other.   That could be a blessing in disguise because wouldn't you want to be with someone that is right for you and makes you as happy as can be?  Try distracting yourself by going on blind dates with friends or asking them to hook you up with someone.  Even if it's just a casual it's a good distraction and a good way to boost your self esteem.  Also, it's normal to feel that way when you find out news such as him having a baby with his new love, just make sure to talk it out with someone you can trust and then try to move on from it.  There's nothing you can do to change it.

Good luck!

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